This post is in response to an answer given at our hall’s Sex in the Dark program last night. I forget the exact wordage of the question, but the question was basically, “Why are women attracted to douchebags.” The response, which didn’t make a lot sense to me, was that they liked because they had more confidence in themselves and that the women thought that they could fix them. My initial reaction to this response was “Yes, they have more confidence, but they are still douchebags.” However, when the question about whether or not the females would stay with a man if they cheated, the unanimous answer was no. This answer surprised me because if you want to try and fix a douchebag peson into something better, then you are going to have to accept the fact that they are going to make mistakes along the way. Hey, I don’t care if you want to date the douchebag. That is your decision, but don’t try to make me feel sorry for you when he goes and cheats because that is what he is going to do. If you want to truly change him, then you’re going to have to put up with his cheating until you can “change” him for the better (Also, I would like to wish anyone trying to change them good luck. Unfortunately I have met a lot of douchebags in my 21 years and I have yet to see one change).
The final thing that threw me off was when the females were asked about whether or not personality counted for anything. Of course, they answered yes. It seems to me that they want to make themselves believe that they are looking for a good personality, but in reality all they really want is someone who will treat them poorly and have a big ego. On the other hand, another possibility is that the type of personality that they are looking for is the stereotypical douchebag type. I don’t think that this is the case, but I could be mistaken (It wouldn’t be the first time). Anyways, that was my take on the answers given. Take them or leave them, I don’t care. It’s just my opinion.
